“Evelyn” by Joseph Vasquez

I thought I could put any puzzle together until I met you, now that you’re gone, I’m the one that’s fallen to pieces. That’s what happens when you don’t fight for her, fight the inner thoughts that tell you you’re not good enough, that you can never overcome yourself. There’s only been one woman that I imagined would take my last name, and I lay broken, knowing she’ll be another Mrs one day. The war rages on, and I know I’ll find another, but you, you were there all along. Your eyes told me to fight, but my heart knew the truth, that you were better moving on. I will fight, even though demons never quite go away, or surrender.

Wanting you is one thing, deserving you is another.

 

This entry is loosely based on a woman I met a year and a half ago, I never had her in my life, we just knew minor details about each other, there was something different about her, something special, something that I always wanted to know.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“We tell her that she can fly, but we still clip her wings” by Joseph Vasquez

Why are so many people afraid to see a woman succeed? We have women that are literally dying to try to get an education. Why do we oppress the most precious resource on Earth? Are we so insecure that we fear a smart woman? Women are natural nurturers, and the world needs to be nurtured.

I’m no religious fanatic, but I do believe that women were created to be the helper; stay with me feminist, because this is actually the greatest compliment you can give to a someone. Women give us life, she could be a housewife or an executive, either way, she has gifts that men can’t provide. She spends her whole life developing others.

The problem is we treat women like the root, we love to admire the tree, but don’t think twice about the root; no root, no tree, no woman, no life. I can’t understand why such a simple concept is so hard for so many men to comprehend. Women give us life, while we try to set limits on theirs.

Man can take us to the moon, a woman can light up the sky and make the trip worthwhile. Having a dream is one thing, but having a woman to build that dream for is everything.

You oppress something because you either fear it or because you envy it, which is it, men?

 

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I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“Before you call her a slut” by Joseph Vasquez

I don’t mean to offend by the provocative title

 

I’ve been a romance writer for the past few years, and in this time, I’ve been asked several questions; one question, in particular, made me evaluate my life in so many ways:

“So you write for women, and talk about how they should be treated, have you ever degraded one?”

My answer:

“If I ever did, it wasn’t without her consent.”

That answer got me out of an awkward situation, and even though it was the truth, it was not right.

I personally know four victims of sexual abuse, these women shared their past, and how it affects the choices they make today. The one thing these women have in common is the fact that they can’t explain why they seek something they don’t want, they don’t understand why they seek out something that has been so traumatic.

We glorify the sexualization of women, some use this as an excuse to treat them as objects, some use this to justify the fulfilling of vile desires. If anything, we need to glorify the correct treatment of women. Society adopts a philosophy, and the majority of people agree, the modern philosophy is doing more harm than good; eg: Everyone on social media “Likes” your half nude body, but if you become a victim of sexual abuse, it’s of course because of the way you parade yourself.

Women are natural survivors, but no one should have to survive the mental torture of sexual abuse. She is not a slut! She’s a Woman, and she is the greatest gift in the world, it’s time we treat her as such.

Instead of exploiting her, let’s give her the power to hear, let’s teach her that she is the gateway to life, and let’s teach him to respect and value her.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

Men, and Women were not created to be alone by Joseph Vasquez

I have heard several times that men were not meant to be alone, but I don’t think I ever heard the same thing about women. As a man, I can tell you what a positive impact a good woman makes. Just like there is a push for women to embrace independence, there has been a push for men to do the same. For men, the push started a long time ago. A woman is a gift to a man, and a man is to treasure his gift and provide for her, by providing, I do not just mean physical or material needs, I mean something far beyond that, men must also provide for a woman’s emotional and spiritual needs.

A woman is a gift to a man, and a man is to treasure his gift and provide for her, by providing, I do not just mean physical or material needs, I mean something far beyond that, men must provide for a woman’s emotional and spiritual needs.

In today’s world, it is becoming harder and harder to find men that are willing to accept these responsibilities. Seeing the way that men treat women, I can actually understand why some women want independence. At this point, I want to say that no woman needs a man to do anything for her. I’m just saying that men have a role in life, and women have a role in life. When we learn to use our roles in positive ways and to compliment each other’s lives, that’s when we are living the way that we were meant to live, this is when relationships work.

It’s been said that women are hard to understand, what’s so hard to understand? Women have a few basic needs, and if you can fill these needs, everything else is easy:

  1. She wants to be loved
  2. She wants to feel secure
  3. She wants to be happy
  4. She wants to be valued

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“A quick note to my unconceived child” by Joseph Vasquez

I may not have been the best example, and I may not have always done things right, but my biggest hope, is that whatever good qualities I had will be passed on to you, and you will build on them to change the world.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.