For just over 11 years, I was a supervisor for a call center. The majority of people I worked with were women, as a matter of fact, there were several stretches where the department was 100% female. This wasn’t too much of an issue, but of course, I heard the usually accusations; “I know why you hired her”, or, “I know why she was promoted.” For the most part this wasn’t too much of an issue, because even though I was far from perfect, I knew it was true that if you treat everyone fair, there’s not much to worry about.
It’s an unofficial statistic, but I’d say my job was 90% keeping people happy. The hours, and the nature of the job attracted many younger college students, which by the way, are some of the best people you can work with. Any given day, I had 25 people reporting to me, most were between 18 to 24. I took a genuine interest in all of them because I did their job before I was promoted.
As far as the job, it was minimum wage, and for the most part, pretty dead-end, but my job was to motivate them to do it as well as they could. I’d say I did an okay job, but I really tried to motivate them to do more, outside of work. When I met with everyone individually, I wouldn’t talk about work much, instead, I would ask them about school. I did this because I hated to see people stuck, especially when the future is theirs to be written.
So what does this have to do with beautiful motivation? I’m getting to it.
One common factor with most people was getting burnt out. Energy was not much of an issue, it was just taxing on them; going to school, trying to do well, coming in for 5 hours a day to do mind numbing work.
I’ve heard my share of venting, I’ve handed out hundreds of tissues, and I’ve learned from so many wonderful people. When I would try to push them, I noticed I typically used the same three-point system:
You’re smart, you’re beautiful, you can do this.
I don’t believe anyone took this as anything other than honest compliments, but is it wrong to throw in a physical characteristic? I certainly would never tell a male:
You’re smart, you’re handsome, you can do this.
Do we subconsciously use beauty as a standard for a woman’s worth? I remember having to interview when I was promoted, and my manager, whom I’ve known for years, told me I look handsome in a suit. This threw me off because it was the last thing I would have expected.
I believe in equal pay, and equal treatment for everyone, but I do not believe women are equal. Women are the gift, and we need to treat them better, is this sexiest?