“The stereotypical country music song” by Joseph Vasquez


It seems like for the past few years my life has been like a stereotypical country music song; so much of my time and money has gone to my truck and my dogs (I don’t have anything against pure country, it’s one of the most sincere forms of music) My dogs are family, so I would do anything for them, and my truck is almost 13 years old, so there’s obviously going to be issues.

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I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I've gone without a dog is two weeks, and I'm going to write until I can't anymore.

“Beautiful Motivation” by Joseph Vasquez

For just over 11 years, I was a supervisor for a call center. The majority of people I worked with were women, as a matter of fact, there were several stretches where the department was 100% female. This wasn’t too much of an issue, but of course, I heard the usually accusations; “I know why you hired her”, or, “I know why she was promoted.” For the most part this wasn’t too much of an issue, because even though I was far from perfect, I knew it was true that if you treat everyone fair, there’s not much to worry about.

It’s an unofficial statistic, but I’d say my job was 90% keeping people happy. The hours, and the nature of the job attracted many younger college students, which by the way, are some of the best people you can work with. Any given day, I had 25 people reporting to me, most were between 18 to 24. I took a genuine interest in all of them because I did their job before I was promoted.

As far as the job, it was minimum wage, and for the most part, pretty dead-end, but my job was to motivate them to do it as well as they could. I’d say I did an okay job, but I really tried to motivate them to do more, outside of work. When I met with everyone individually, I wouldn’t talk about work much, instead, I would ask them about school. I did this because I hated to see people stuck, especially when the future is theirs to be written.

So what does this have to do with beautiful motivation? I’m getting to it.

One common factor with most people was getting burnt out. Energy was not much of an issue, it was just taxing on them; going to school, trying to do well, coming in for 5 hours a day to do mind numbing work.

I’ve heard my share of venting, I’ve handed out hundreds of tissues, and I’ve learned from so many wonderful people. When I would try to push them, I noticed I typically used the same three-point system:

You’re smart, you’re beautiful, you can do this.

I don’t believe anyone took this as anything other than honest compliments, but is it wrong to throw in a physical characteristic? I certainly would never tell a male:

You’re smart, you’re handsome, you can do this.

Do we subconsciously use beauty as a standard for a woman’s worth? I remember having to interview when I was promoted, and my manager, whom I’ve known for years, told me I look handsome in a suit. This threw me off because it was the last thing I would have expected.

I believe in equal pay, and equal treatment for everyone, but I do not believe women are equal. Women are the gift, and we need to treat them better, is this sexiest?

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I've gone without a dog is two weeks, and I'm going to write until I can't anymore.

BOOK REVIEW – NLP Techniques by Brian Ledger

NLP Techniques – Boost Your Self Confidence! Effective Techniques For: Self Hypnosis, Mind Control, & Focus.

This book is a guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). The author defines the term as a group of techniques to improve your communication with the listener, related to their unconscious and subconscious. “My approach when writing this guide was to make it as practical and definite as possible so that you know how to incorporate it into your daily life.”

The author tells us about the “three essential ingredients” to run the NLP, why you should use it on your daily basis and the importance of self-control.

The reader can find four main techniques to apply this method, and “do’s and don’ts”.

The conclusion is a little encouragement to the reader to have a try and enjoy the benefits of the NLP.

My personal opinion is that this book summarizes the essential method of “making more positive” your thoughts and behavior in order to improve the consequences and results of everything you do. Framing your bad thoughts, fixing your anxiety in a prior good feeling so your mind can focus and redirect (which happens to be “anchoring”, but that is mostly known as “Happy Thoughts”). Now they call it NLP, but I think this manuscript is a very good quick sight to change your ways with the main goal of being happier and mentally healthier. And, who doesn’t need that? I like it because it’s clear and short, just what you need to wake up and motivate yourself to be just, the best version of yourself.


I'm Mar. Head of The Bold Mom. Promoter and compulsive thinker.

The Ultimate Guide to Self Motivation by The Evolutionary Mind


The Evolutionary Mind has launched THE guide to Self Motivation.

I honestly encourage you to check it out or save it on your browser until you have time to have a look, because sometimes you just need the right words to take THE decision.



I'm Mar. Head of The Bold Mom. Promoter and compulsive thinker.

Little inspiration dose: Change your mind to change your life by Yash Dagaria 

In this world, we have innumerable aspirations, wants and desires. But most of us end up just thinking about it yet not doing it. Some of us are stuck in our procrastinating habits. There are few who are able to push themselves every day or at least most of the days to achieve their goals.

We all want to be in that few category but we are still more comfortable in the other two.

To really be amongst the few we need to be more of doers than just being thinkers.

First and foremost thing, if you are still reading, my advice is to change and evolve yourself, just like me and many others. The biggest attribute needed here is breaking our comfort level, yes that’s true.

“Comfort level” chains need to be broken as soon as possible. I feel great watching movies on TV, but it might take two hours daily. I feel great playing Candy Crush on my phone and I keep doing it whenever I am free. I feel good doing my job and come back to home and I keep repeating the process.
All of this is good, much needed in life.

I can lay off TV for two hours and give some time to speak my wife, kids or friends. I can stop playing with the laptop and follow a hobby I left when I started growing up or developing a new one. When every day I come home from work, I should do something to change my routine. May it be talking to some colleagues, catching up with them after my journey, take a time to give my mind a break from the mundane routine.

There are many other comfort zones which are needed in life, but we need to not obsess and do something else. Let’s not become a slave of our unwanted routine and not enjoying life itself.

We want this world to be changed for good and more importantly, we want to transform our lives but nothing will happen if we don’t change for our own betterment. “be the change to change things around you.”

Guys, this is the first time I have written after my college for my own purpose, I used to be a bard but with work, home and life. I actually forgot to do something which I like: writing. This is my first change towards my betterment and I am sure you will find yours and act sooner right away.

Let’s motivate us to be better on a daily basis. It won’t do a quick magic but very soon we will embrace and love our lives by exploring the endless possibilities, which now we can’t even imagine.

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I'm Mar. Head of The Bold Mom. Promoter and compulsive thinker.