Am I a feminist? by Joseph Vasquez

NO! A feminist would have put an expletive in front of the no, it’s never right to talk like that in front of a lady.

What I am is a man that believes everyone should be treated equally as far as pay is concerned, and as far as opportunities go. I’m no feminist, I would never belittle a woman by telling her she’s as good as a man. I believe that a woman is meant to be treasured.

I believe women should be empowered to do anything, but men are not to treat them as equals.

The definition of a feminist may have good meanings, but it does more harm than good. Yes, a woman can do anything a man can do, but no, women were not meant to be treated like men.

Let’s look at the story of Adam and Eve, Adam was meant to watch over Eve, not the other way around. Adam was held responsible for taking care of Eve.

A woman deserves to have the door held for her, not because she’s weak, but because she’s respected.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

Love at first sight

If I may steal the phrase that the American President coined, it’s “Fake News” Lust, at first sight, is definitely real, but not love. Love is too complex to just base it off of an initial meeting. Physical characteristics are important, but they are just one of the many factors of love.

It’s been said over and over that looks may be deceiving, I agree, I’ve met very attractive women that have less than desirable personalities, and vice versa. Of course, men are physical beings, but there’s so more to a person. Some of the biggest mistakes I’ve made were due to mixing up the true definition of beauty  

I once had a list of 31 things that I look for in a partner, nothing on that list was physical, some people may think 31 is too much, but I could probably have made it to 50, easily.

I personally have never been in love, I’ve had a few relationships, but nothing that turned into anything lasting. I’m looking forward to it one day, from what I’ve learned from the past, I’m confident that I’ll get it right!

Think of a big beautiful house that was built on sand, it’s great to look at, but it’s completely unstable, this metaphor can describe a few of my relationships, and maybe some of yours? It’s crucial that you get to know the person on every level, don’t worry about taking your time, this is your life we’re talking about.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“Nag, Nag, Nag” by Joseph Vaquez

At one point or another, all men have accused a woman of nagging him. She could be a Mother, Sister, Wife or just a friend. We’re all guilty of it. The thing that we fail to realize is that, for the most part, it’s not nagging, it’s caring for us. Women are natural nurturers, from childhood to adulthood, women have a natural instinct to care for others, this brings balance to a man’s life. We need someone to care for us. We men show our love through what we are willing to do for our women. Women show their love through their wiliness to provide care for us. I personally would not call it nagging if someone cares enough about me to show concern. I want a woman to ask me if I made that Doctor’s appointment. I want one who will want me to eat healthier, that’s love. Have you ever stopped someone from doing something dangerous? Odds are you cared about this person and cared enough about them to speak up even when it wasn’t that comfortable. When you think your wife or any other woman is nagging you, think about the point they are trying to get across to you. They want you to be happy and healthy. They want you to live longer, they see things from a different perspective, and this perspective is all for your best interest. Women have a tough job, especially nowadays. Men are more disrespectful than ever. We take for granted the gift that women are, and their influence in our lives. Never accuse the woman who loves you more than you can imagine of nagging you. Be thankful that you have someone that actually cares about you. You may have friends, you may have a family, but how many of them care for you enough to look out for your health? Appreciate what you have, and value her opinion. Love her instinct to care for you, and build upon it. Show her that you love her by listening to her and taking in her advice. She is not nagging you. She loves you.

Have you ever stopped someone from doing something dangerous? Odds are you cared about this person and cared enough about them to speak up, even when it wasn’t that comfortable. When you think your wife, or any other woman is nagging you, think about the point they are trying to get across to you. They want you to be happy and healthy. They want you to live longer, they see things from a different perspective, and this perspective is for your best interest. We need to value their influence in our lives. Never accuse the woman who loves you more than you can imagine of nagging you. Be thankful that you have someone that actually cares about you. You may have friends, you may have a family, but how many of them care for you enough to look out for your health? Appreciate what you have, and value her opinion. Love her instinct to care for you, and build upon it. Show her that you love her by listening to her and taking in her advice. She is not nagging you. She loves you.

I wish I had someone that cared like that.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“We tell her that she can fly, but we still clip her wings” by Joseph Vasquez

Why are so many people afraid to see a woman succeed? We have women that are literally dying to try to get an education. Why do we oppress the most precious resource on Earth? Are we so insecure that we fear a smart woman? Women are natural nurturers, and the world needs to be nurtured.

I’m no religious fanatic, but I do believe that women were created to be the helper; stay with me feminist, because this is actually the greatest compliment you can give to a someone. Women give us life, she could be a housewife or an executive, either way, she has gifts that men can’t provide. She spends her whole life developing others.

The problem is we treat women like the root, we love to admire the tree, but don’t think twice about the root; no root, no tree, no woman, no life. I can’t understand why such a simple concept is so hard for so many men to comprehend. Women give us life, while we try to set limits on theirs.

Man can take us to the moon, a woman can light up the sky and make the trip worthwhile. Having a dream is one thing, but having a woman to build that dream for is everything.

You oppress something because you either fear it or because you envy it, which is it, men?

 

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I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.

“Before you call her a slut” by Joseph Vasquez

I don’t mean to offend by the provocative title

 

I’ve been a romance writer for the past few years, and in this time, I’ve been asked several questions; one question, in particular, made me evaluate my life in so many ways:

“So you write for women, and talk about how they should be treated, have you ever degraded one?”

My answer:

“If I ever did, it wasn’t without her consent.”

That answer got me out of an awkward situation, and even though it was the truth, it was not right.

I personally know four victims of sexual abuse, these women shared their past, and how it affects the choices they make today. The one thing these women have in common is the fact that they can’t explain why they seek something they don’t want, they don’t understand why they seek out something that has been so traumatic.

We glorify the sexualization of women, some use this as an excuse to treat them as objects, some use this to justify the fulfilling of vile desires. If anything, we need to glorify the correct treatment of women. Society adopts a philosophy, and the majority of people agree, the modern philosophy is doing more harm than good; eg: Everyone on social media “Likes” your half nude body, but if you become a victim of sexual abuse, it’s of course because of the way you parade yourself.

Women are natural survivors, but no one should have to survive the mental torture of sexual abuse. She is not a slut! She’s a Woman, and she is the greatest gift in the world, it’s time we treat her as such.

Instead of exploiting her, let’s give her the power to hear, let’s teach her that she is the gateway to life, and let’s teach him to respect and value her.

I live in beautiful, sunny Southern California, the longest I’ve gone without a dog is two weeks, and I’m going to write until I can’t anymore.